Guest Blog: Alex Cormont, Relationship Expert
How to make him want you and nobody else!
In my line of work, there are quite a few recurring themes, and today, I want to talk about one of the biggest ones with you. I wish I could tell you how many emails I get every single day on this topic, so that is why I am writing this article for you right now! So, if you’re reading this article today, then chances are that there is someone you’ve got your sights set on and you want to know how to make a man want you over everyone else. There is a secret that I am going to share with you and once you understand it, you will witness your love life transform.
Doesn’t sound too bad, right? Fortunately, it is also very easy to incorporate into your everyday life! I want to explain how to make this guy crazy about you, how to make him want to commit to a relationship with you, and how to make him understand that you are unlike all the rest. There is also a very common mistake that we need to avoid, but don’t worry. By the time you get to the end of this article, you’ll know exactly what to do to get this guy addicted to you once and for all!
How to make a man want you using reverse psychology
I’ve been an International love and relationship coach since 2007, so I’ve been able to really study how the human mind works, how the strongest relationships evolve, and what works and what doesn’t. The human brain is a fascinating thing and we often underestimate the power of it… But I am getting ahead of myself.
First things first, I want to go over a very important thing when it comes to how to make a man want you. Here is the pattern that I keep seeing: Girl meets boy, girl starts to really like boy, girl starts giving boy lots of attention, lots of time, lots of love, and then boy becomes distant. So basically what happens here is that you start to like him so you bend over backward trying to give him everything, thinking that it’ll make him become more attached too (this is often subconscious), but then he ends up taking you for granted and pulls away. In his mind, instead of finding you more attractive, he’ll see you as being overeager, or worse still, needy and clingy.
This is not what we want and this is where reverse psychology comes in. I’ve used this with clients all over the world for years, and it’s incredibly powerful when you want to make a guy want you. You want this guy to desire you, to fight for you, and you want a real relationship in which this guy makes an effort, is involved, texts you, calls you, asks you to go out… Right?
Great. So if you want real results, I have two tips for you.
How to make a guy fall in love with you: Here is how it all begins:
If there is one thing you take away from this article, let it be this: It ALL begins with you.
More often than not, when there’s a guy that you really want, you’ll have this intense desire for him and you’ll ask yourself, “What can I do to attract him? How can I make him want me? How can I make him miss me and want to commit to me…?” And you start out in the losing position.
Why? You start out in the losing position because you set the stage by putting this guy up on the pedestal! You’re chasing him, you’re trying to figure out how you can get him, and you’re putting him in a higher position than you because you’re inadvertently thinking that he’s better than you. You’re thinking that you have to make an effort to get him!
But no, ladies. YOU are the prize here and please don’t ever forget it! You’re the best, you bring so much to the table, you have wonderful values, you’re something special. So here’s what needs to happen now. From this day on, you are to stop saying, “How do I make him want me,” and replace it with, “This guy needs to fight for ME.” You have to repeat this sentence to yourself and you will see a huge difference between “What can I do to make him like me” and “I want him to fight for me.” You’ll feel that difference in the way you stand, your tone of voice, and the way you feel (your self-confidence.) You’ll never feel the same way and you’ll open the door to much more meaningful relationships, in which you are treasured the way you’re meant to be treasured!
2 tips for making a man want you
I know that what I am saying about reverse psychology might sound counterintuitive and difficult. It’s not the way that you would naturally react, so I get that it would be challenging.
But I can confidently tell you that if you practice this new mindset, then you can make this guy fall head over heels for you.
Now let’s take it a step further and make him want you more. Another thing I see happening all the time has to do with the dating process. Often times, when a woman is developing feelings for a man, she will say yes to anything he proposes.
Do you want to go to the movies? Yes!
Do you want to go to a restaurant? Yes!
Walk on the beach? Yes!
The problem here is that when you do that, he’s going to start to take you for granted after a couple of weeks because you’re constantly saying yes to him! He’ll start to expect it from you and then you’re no longer The Challenge. So now, the next time he suggests hanging out, say this:
“Oh, I’d love to do something special. What do you propose?”
Let me explain. Whenever you say yes to whatever this guy proposes, you’re putting him on a pedestal, but when you tell him that you want to do something special, you’re in essence asking him to step up to the plate.
The result is that you take him off the pedestal, and he’ll feel it!
Men love a challenge and they find this attractive and exciting, so always keep this in mind when you’re thinking, How can I make him want me?
So, my friends, these are two techniques that come from reverse psychology that will help you to make a man become obsessed with you. Trust me, it works. Move away from thinking “I want to give,” and move towards, “I want to receive” and you will see that everything will change.
You’ve got this, ladies 😉
I am wishing you all the very best,
Your French relationship coach